The Life Ready Woman is the latest book I’ve received for reviewing from Litfuse, and this time, they’ve also provided a copy for me to give away too!
So, I’m not going to make you jump though 15 hoops of twitter and facebook and everything else… if you’d like to be entered into the giveaway, just leave a comment. You’ll need to at least fill out the email to be able to contact you if you win… (and I suppose for that matter be willing to send me a postal address to send the book to if I do email you that you’ve won). Yup, making the lurkers de-lurk if they wanna join in. 🙂
Anyway, back to the topic. The book.
Honestly, my thoughts run pretty split. There are parts of it that I love, and then parts that I remain unconvinced.
The book starts off pretty well, discussing both the new freedoms and progress made by women, and the way women get pulled into different directions between balancing career and family, and the trade offs on both sides.
It won big points with me on this by seeming pretty well balanced… it doesn’t tell you point blank your place is staying home and it does point out how the often pushed model of the stay at home mother and working father is nowhere specifically supported in the Bible, and that even the whole Proverbs 31 woman thing clearly shows she had business interests outside her home. (The authors seem to go for the literal interpretation here, not seeing her as a metaphor for the bride of Christ)
The next part starts off well too, discussing priorities, and the sets of life purposes… the first set being those God expects of everyone, the second being ones specifically suited to our roles as a female, and the third being the ones specific to you as a person. Good thoughts.
But then they get more specific and go into each in details.
The three primary life purposes that they say God has given everyone that should be the first factor in guiding your life are: To “leave and cleave”, to “be fruitful and multiply”, and to “subdue and rule”.
Yes, all three have a biblical reference in Genesis, but other than that, they don’t really go into why these three things out of all the many things said are the primary ones.
So, these three primary objectives are a given in most of the book. While they do allow that sometimes God allows people to meet them in other ways besides marriage and having children, especially in the next few chapters these seem pretty much an afterthought, and sometimes even almost condescending in tone. It’s mentioned that almost every female will be married at some point, so from there on, it turns into the currently married instructions vs the pre wife training mode. Those who are called to be single are said to be rare exceptions who should still be in training mode.
They do off and on introduce people who are single and remain single, however it’s often to show them as a wonderful example for pursuing the multiply goal through adoption, and gets pretty specific that you should always be preparing to someday be married and remain ready and waiting and preparing for that time. They mention several times a story of a particular person who put off going to grad school she needed to attend for a boyfriend who hadn’t yet proposed hoping that things would progress with him within a few years… that he did later propose makes putting her life on hold for someone who wasn’t yet ready to commit to her be seen as a positive move.
If this is the sort of view that you come from, you will probably like this book a lot. For me, there were places that I probably would have put it down had I not agreed to finish and review it.
The book does get better, and the later chapters do seem to have a lot less of the “pre-wife training” thoughts with the exception of a chapter about dealing with men, but with that basis it tends to be a bit touch and go as to how much it colors the content.
There’s a later section that goes into some great thoughts about life seasons, and that there are times of life that are meant for devoting more to certain things that can really be missed if priorities are elsewhere during that time, such as delaying kids past 40 for the sake of your career.
However, then they try to specifically spell out what these particular phases are for everyone… ending up in a mold that even they admit doesn’t fit for just as many people as it does fit. Their solution to this is to merge the goals of the two closest ones. So if you are newly-wed and now a step-parent to teenagers, your goals for this phase of your life are the same as those of a newly married childless woman and then you add in the goals of a mother who is the biological parent of teens and raised them from birth up to that point. Somehow, I don’t think things with the teenagers is going to go very smoothly working from there.
So the book sort of frustrated me. Because a lot of the points they make a really good points.. and they do in most cases seem to get a good balance on the topic of working and career goals vs family and home goals. But then, there were a lot of tones in parts that reminded me why I avoid the vast majority of women’s conferences.
Overall, I think for most Christian women, especially married ones, this is probably much less of anything they would have issues with.
And I’m reminded again of how much I appreciate some of those who lead women’s programs that encourage growth in them as women regardless of their current or future roles.
The official details:
About The Life Ready Woman:
Are you a ‘Doing it all’ or ‘Do what matters’ woman?
Whether a stay at home; or working mom, an airplane-hopping executive, an empty-nester caring for multiple generations or a single juggling high demands of career and personal life, today’s fast-paced modern world leaves women gasping for balance. We as modern Christian women want to look to the Bible for guidance on how to manage our lives — but because the world of women looks so different today than it did when the Bible was written, it is hard to find chapter and verse that seems to apply to our situation today.
Thankfully, God has given us exactly that timeless, unchanging guidance for how to find peace, clarity, and God’s best for our lives once we know where to look! The Life Ready Woman: Thriving in a Do-It-All World, reveals a profound biblical roadmap for how each of us can find the abundant life we are longing for, rather than the stressful, torn, how-do-I-balance-it-all life we often feel like we are trying to keep up with today. Actually being a LifeReady Woman means that you are clear about your life, bold in your faith, and able to find God’s best for you, and the end result will be that you not only survive but thrive in our do-it-all world.
God has given every wonderfully unique woman different skills and abilities, different desires, and different temperaments — and every woman around the planet and through the ages is certainly living in different circumstances. But no matter what a woman’s life looks like, the Bible says that God has an individual mission and plan that He’s carefully designed for each of us. And He wants us to find it. Starting January 2011, The Life Ready Woman and the Life Ready Woman Video Series will help every wonderfully unique woman to thrive as she identifies and courageously pursues God’s unique design and callings for her. LifeReady Woman puts you on a roadmap to make decisions that will lead to relief, delight, and fulfillment instead of regret.
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About Shaunti Feldhahn:
Shaunti Feldhahn is a former Wall Street analyst, best-selling author of the book For Women Only, national speaker, and regular commentator in the media. She has been featured on The Today Show, PBS, TNT and Fox News- to name a few. You can learn more about her many activities by visiting her website Shaunti.com or get some great mom advice from her at MomLifeToday.com. She and her husband live with their two young children in Atlanta, Georgia and enjoy every minute of living at warp speed.
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In celebration of Shaunti Feldhahn’s Life Ready Woman, MomLife Today is giving away 2 Weekend To Remember Gift Packs and much more!
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